Four Red Flags
At Lakewood Recovery, we do everything we can to support our clients in their individual journeys toward sustained sobriety. Along the way, we have learned to watch for certain “red flags;” or, behaviors that suggest a client may be showing relapse behavior. We always to try to get ahead of the curve. If a struggling client is willing to be honest and make the requisite changes suggested to him by Lakewood staff, more often than not, the client continues on his journey to become the healthy, sober man he is meant to be.
Here are four of the most common red-flags we observe:
1. Isolation.Isolation is more extreme than just being shy, soft spoken, or merely introverted. The typical isolator may show signs of depression, such as sleeping during daylight hours, or failing to keep up with personal hygiene and/or nutritional needs. Isolators generally avoid interaction with other clients or staff. We notice isolating trends fairly quickly at Lakewood. After all, we have three staff members, and a maximum of 5 clients. When we first see signs of a client isolating, we take action. We may take him out to eat, invite him to the movies, or encourage him to exercise/attend recovery meetings, be out of his room until he plans to go to bed.The more active and involved the client becomes in his recovery and in the community, the less likely he is to isolate.
2. Dishonesty/Lies.If a client is caught in a lie, chances are he is already well on his way to relapse. Many clients have been lying to their friends and family for years about pretty much everything. However, once they have gotten to Lakewood and they have already been either detoxed or have time spent in residential treatment. There is nothing more to lie about. We all know that if someone is not doing anything sketchy then there should not be any issues with honesty. If you think something strange is going on, generally there is! Lakewood staff simply cannot help if we are being told erroneous information. We hold our guys accountable and fact check what we are being told. Being truthful is always the best solution.
3. Constant Irritability.We get it… nobody likes to admit defeat, and having to live in a sober home isn’t likely to make anyone’s “greatest achievements” list. With that being said, it is a major red flag if a client is constantly irritated. In recovery, we hear the acronym “RID” – restless, irritable, and discontent. We must be RID of RID; and luckily, the staff at Lakewood has decadesof combined experience combatting against RID and working to prevent it. So long as the client is honest, Lakewood’s team will help him brainstorm ways to refocus the energy from the irritation into more positive, esteem-building endeavors. Getting out into the community, volunteering, etc.
4. Failing To Adopt a Program of Action.After a month of living at Lakewood, clients will have developed a plan to stay sober, one day at a time, for the rest of their lives. Whether he takes part in a 12 Step Anonymous meeting, a Smart Recovery Meeting, or a recovery meeting organized by a faith group or church, participation in such groups is essential to long-term recovery. Lakewood encourages clients to build strong foundations of support outside the walls of the house, so that when clients leave Lakewood, they continue to have a source of accountability.
If you’re seeing or have already seen these red-flags in the past, perhaps in yourself or in a loved one, while attempting to stay sober, the good news is Lakewood Recovery is here. Call today to find out if you are a good fit for our sober-living program. Remember that if you struggle with one (or all!) of these common, red-flag behaviors, you aren’t alone. Almost anyone in recovery can tell you that they’ve felt exactly the same way at one time or another. Lakewood is here for you, and if you are ready to be the man you were meant to be, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Jay Staples or Zachary Rakusin
1 (800) 413-1847