Indecision Can Be Daunting
All of us, whether in recovery or not, have faced times of indecision in our lives. But for those of us struggling with addiction, indecision can be daunting, triggering and even crippling.
If you haven’t yet been confronted with the need to make an important decision in early recovery, don’t worry – you likely will… and it may be difficult to determine which choice to make or which path to take.
Ultimately, your decisions must prioritize your sobriety.
Fortunately, 12 Step programs recognize the importance of sound decision-making in order to support a sober lifestyle. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 86, gives this advice as part of a meditation to be done every morning upon awakening:
“In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don't struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while.”
Similarly, the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions does too, on page 40-41, states:
"In all times of emotional disturbance or indecision, we can pause, ask for quiet, and in the stillness simply say: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done.”
It Gets Easier
In my personal experience, decisions do get easier the more I rely on a higher power to direct my thoughts and actions. I’ve heard many times that, if we don’t know which choice to make, we simply must do “the next right thing.”
For me, “the next right thing” typically involves helping out another alcoholic, attending a meeting, or going outside for a jog. Clearing my mind and taking the focus away from myself helps me gain perspective into what I actually need in order to live a sober, productive life.
Whether or not to attend sober living is a choice many alcoholics/addicts have to make before leaving rehab. In my opinion, any option that provides more support, accountability, and community in early sobriety is usually the right choice.
The higher chances of success, the better. I made this mistake twice; I chose to go back home to the house in which I drank instead of going to sober living as recommended by my case workers and therapists. I suffered the consequences, and ended up right back where I started.
If you are torn between whether or not to go to sober living, just pause for a moment – “Do the next right thing.”
Give yourself the best chance for success. Consider Lakewood Recovery as an option; the staff there know all too well how tough these decisions are, and would be eager to help you navigate through more of life’s tough decisions on your road to success.
By. Dana M.